Home and Routines by Cutting Out the Fear
There probably many out there with a mess in places within their homes. Maybe even the whole house. I am not about to spout off statistics and give the run around of numbers. You are spared on this one. What I want to talk about is the various reasons we go through these things and what questions you need to look at and where you may find yourself needing a bit more support. There are many reasons to why things get out of control and there are many ways to get help.
Parents were messy: You are so worried about it that you become messy. It consumes your time. You need to stop and think about it. You are not your parents. There is a lot of information out there on routines. Find the building technique that works for you and practice. Keep up on routines and this clear it self up.
Moved in with some one or married: Combining houses is not an easy task. I would bet that it was easier when girls still lived at home before marriage. It is going to be OK. Stick with routines while leaving room for the other persons. Share responsibilities and have them mapped out as expectations before moving in. Do allow for illness and change to bounce it around a little. Discuss favorite furniture and needed items together. This way you work with each other and understand why a particular item is so important to you. You may have all of grandmother's living room set. Do you need all of it? Could pieces be given to other family members. Is it Ugly to you in the first place? Don't keep items that are Ugly to you. Just because it was grandmother's does not mean you have to keep it for life. Ask questions and compromise. Then right into routines. Keep up on the boxes and loose items. You will make it through fine. Recruit family and friends to assist in the move.
Hoarding habits keeping things in chaos: Well you will need some assistance here. You need to find the root cause. Was it parents? Was there a loss of something that has you feeling out of control? A traumatic event could have set this in motion. All of these things require determination and a professional councillor to assist you in moving forward and to remove bad habits.
Babies, little ones, teens an issue: Really push through and build routines. Their stages change quickly and soon enough they will be out of the house and on their own. If it is to much for you then you may want to speak with someone. Maybe a relative or good friend will do. The Internet has many places to find ideas, tips and tricks for the various stages and difficulties that child may be going through. Adapt to the specific needs of your home. Keep at it and eventually you will make it through to the next stage or phase within your own life.
Dramatic change in your life: Divorce, loss of a partner, medical condition, change in job or location, and there is so much more can throw a home into lack of structure based on being an adult alone. Take your time and plan out what the changes are. Look into the Internet and various community supports if available in your area for your concern. Check in with others that are having the same difficulties with getting back into routine and the adjustments that need to be made.
As you can see there are a lot of things that at one time or another can create a bit of mess in the home. All of it is common and there are many success stories out there. Whatever fear caused the situation can be worked through and developed into a more positive atmosphere for you. It takes routines. It takes practice. In some cases it takes professional home help and professional counselling. It can all be over come with perseverance and dedication. All the stuff I know each and everyone of you have. Happy cleaning! Time to get the Fear out of the DustBunnyHell.
Nadine Seely
Organizing Coach/life planner
DustBunnyHell
"In the following months there will be a workbook to assist in living with fear. No matter what the fear is or how it came to be a person can live a positive good life. This is one section that is further explored and sheets developed to work with and over come difficulties."
There probably many out there with a mess in places within their homes. Maybe even the whole house. I am not about to spout off statistics and give the run around of numbers. You are spared on this one. What I want to talk about is the various reasons we go through these things and what questions you need to look at and where you may find yourself needing a bit more support. There are many reasons to why things get out of control and there are many ways to get help.
Parents were messy: You are so worried about it that you become messy. It consumes your time. You need to stop and think about it. You are not your parents. There is a lot of information out there on routines. Find the building technique that works for you and practice. Keep up on routines and this clear it self up.
Moved in with some one or married: Combining houses is not an easy task. I would bet that it was easier when girls still lived at home before marriage. It is going to be OK. Stick with routines while leaving room for the other persons. Share responsibilities and have them mapped out as expectations before moving in. Do allow for illness and change to bounce it around a little. Discuss favorite furniture and needed items together. This way you work with each other and understand why a particular item is so important to you. You may have all of grandmother's living room set. Do you need all of it? Could pieces be given to other family members. Is it Ugly to you in the first place? Don't keep items that are Ugly to you. Just because it was grandmother's does not mean you have to keep it for life. Ask questions and compromise. Then right into routines. Keep up on the boxes and loose items. You will make it through fine. Recruit family and friends to assist in the move.
Hoarding habits keeping things in chaos: Well you will need some assistance here. You need to find the root cause. Was it parents? Was there a loss of something that has you feeling out of control? A traumatic event could have set this in motion. All of these things require determination and a professional councillor to assist you in moving forward and to remove bad habits.
Babies, little ones, teens an issue: Really push through and build routines. Their stages change quickly and soon enough they will be out of the house and on their own. If it is to much for you then you may want to speak with someone. Maybe a relative or good friend will do. The Internet has many places to find ideas, tips and tricks for the various stages and difficulties that child may be going through. Adapt to the specific needs of your home. Keep at it and eventually you will make it through to the next stage or phase within your own life.
Dramatic change in your life: Divorce, loss of a partner, medical condition, change in job or location, and there is so much more can throw a home into lack of structure based on being an adult alone. Take your time and plan out what the changes are. Look into the Internet and various community supports if available in your area for your concern. Check in with others that are having the same difficulties with getting back into routine and the adjustments that need to be made.
As you can see there are a lot of things that at one time or another can create a bit of mess in the home. All of it is common and there are many success stories out there. Whatever fear caused the situation can be worked through and developed into a more positive atmosphere for you. It takes routines. It takes practice. In some cases it takes professional home help and professional counselling. It can all be over come with perseverance and dedication. All the stuff I know each and everyone of you have. Happy cleaning! Time to get the Fear out of the DustBunnyHell.
Nadine Seely
Organizing Coach/life planner
DustBunnyHell
"In the following months there will be a workbook to assist in living with fear. No matter what the fear is or how it came to be a person can live a positive good life. This is one section that is further explored and sheets developed to work with and over come difficulties."
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